Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was A Girl

Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was A Girl

A Memoir

Book - 2019
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"Jeannie Vanasco has had the same nightmare since she was a teenager. She startles awake, saying his name. It is always about him: one of her closest high school friends, a boy named Mark. A boy who raped her. When her nightmares worsen, Jeannie decides--after fourteen years of silence--to reach out to Mark. He agrees to talk on the record and meet in person. "It's the least I can do," he says. Jeannie details her friendship with Mark before and after the assault, asking the brave and urgent question: Is it possible for a good person to commit a terrible act? Jeannie interviews Mark, exploring how rape has impacted his life as well as her own. She examines the language surrounding sexual assault and pushes against its confines, contributing to and deepening the #MeToo discussion. Exacting and courageous, Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl is part memoir, part true crime record, and part testament to the strength of female friendships--a recounting and reckoning that will inspire us to ask harder questions and interrogate our biases. Jeannie Vanasco examines and dismantles long-held myths of victimhood, discovering grace and power in this genre-bending investigation into the trauma of sexual violence." --Publisher
Publisher: Portland, Oregon : Tin House Books, [2019]
Edition: First US edition.
Copyright Date: ©2019
ISBN: 9781947793453
Call Number: 364.1532 VAN
Characteristics: 357 pages ; 23 cm


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Jan 16, 2020

"I think of Mark's cliched notion of toxic masculinity. The point of this project is to show what seemingly nice guys are capable of."
In her second memoir, Jeannie Vanasco reconnects with a friend from high school who, years ago, raped her when she was drunk. She transcribes their emails, phone calls, and, finally, their in person meeting. It can be an uncomfortable and unsettling read but also a necessary one. Published by Portland's Tin House.
"I'm interviewing a guy, I explain, who sexually assaulted me fourteen years ago. We used to be friends, but obviously the friendship couldn't survive.


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