Too Much and Never Enough

Too Much and Never Enough

How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man

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"In this revelatory, authoritative portrait of Donald J. Trump and the toxic family that made him, Mary L. Trump, a trained clinical psychologist and Donald's only niece, shines a bright light on the dark history of their family in order to explain how her uncle became the man who now threatens the world's health, economic security, and social fabric."--Amazon.com
Publisher: New York : Simon & Schuster, 2020.
Edition: First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition.
Copyright Date: ©2020
ISBN: 9781982141462
1982141468
Call Number: B Trump, Donald TRU
Characteristics: 225 pages ; 24 cm
Bib Control Number: 1123201

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Gutalaw
Sep 15, 2020

A very good and interesting read. Mary doesn't hesitate to psychoanalyze all the Trumps, and her analysis seems consistent with the facts I already knew and those presented in the book. What's interesting is how greed, selfishness, narcissism and privileged attitude have been handed down from grandfather to father to Trump and even permeate the children of Trump's immediate family including nieces and nephews. Trump's sister Maryanne, the former federal judge, and his brother Robert are just as greedy and ruthless as he is. This book is 200 pages and can be easily read in two days.

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laphampeak
Sep 11, 2020

I think Mary Trump has taken us deep into the dysfunction of an American family growing up in the 1950's eastern US. If you take the Trump name out of the equation the book's account of this family would hold it's own. It may be more interesting being written about our current president, however. Many of the faults and abnormalities, to some degree, reflect the past generations and the dire affects they can have on the present. The Trump family seems to be on the high end of abnormal nevertheless.

PimaLib_NormS Sep 11, 2020

Is it possible to comment on Mary Trump’s book, “Too Much and Never Enough: How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man” without taking a political side? Ah . . . probably not. Pan it, and you are a dumb, know-nothing member of the President’s cult. Praise it, and you are a filthy, America-hating liberal who will never give this President a fair chance. It doesn’t seem as if there is any middle ground. And, it is doubtful that this book will do much to move the political needle. Sides have already been chosen, for the most part. So, then what was the point in airing the Trump family’s dirty laundry? Does Mary Trump have an ax to grind? Possibly. Years ago, she and her brother were omitted from their grandfather’s will, which resulted in them suing their aunts and uncles, including the future president. There is bad blood in that family, no doubt. However, that does not prove her book is a worthless, vengeful screed, full of lies and half-baked theories. Everything she writes in the book could be the absolute truth. Motive to lie is not proof of lying. Mary Trump has a unique, long-term perspective on her uncle, the current occupant of the White House. She decided to share her truth with the world. It is up to the reader of “Too Much and Never Enough” to decide what to make of Mary Trump’s truth.

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newdog
Sep 09, 2020

Very informative and well written!

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mikey69
Sep 08, 2020

E pluribus unum: "Out of many, one," is a Latin phrase America's forefathers chose to describe their vision for the nascent nation. Out of many states, people and beliefs, rises one unified Republic. That single phrase possesses our forefathers' dreams, intellect, and higher mind toward governance. It puts no one person ahead of another, seeking as close to perfection as one can hope for in a union as diverse as ours. Then along came Donald.

2020 saw several court battles over books featuring the Trump administration's missteps, and personal battles. One such title was THE ROOM WHERE IT HAPPENED: A WHITE HOUSE MEMOIR (Simon & Schuster, $32.50) by former national security adviser John Bolton. Releasing it to a public hungry for insight into a president whose actions left many perplexed, it sold upwards of 750,000 copies its first week alone. Mary L. Trump, PhD, the president's niece, blew those numbers away in July with the release of her book TOO MUCH AND NEVER ENOUGH: HOW MY FAMILY CREATED THE WORLD'S MOST DANGEROUS MAN (Simon & Schuster, $28.00), selling over a million copies its first day. Love him or hate him, the American public, it seemed, couldn't get enough of Trump.

Born the fourth child of five to Fred and Mary Trump in 1945, Donald Jonathan Trump did not have a normal start to life. When he was still a toddler, his mother fell ill and was never able to provide the nurturing child psychologists say is crucial for healthy development at that age. His father, already a baron of sorts through his company Trump Management, didn't see the need - or have the time - to fill the void left by Mary. From a very early age, the author claims, Donald was left to figure out life on his own.

Fred Trump ran his household on the principles laid down by Norman Vincent Peale in THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING (Simon & Schuster, $8.00), the international bestseller and precursor to the so-called prosperity gospel. It states, "[O]bstacles are simply not permitted to destroy your happiness and well-being. You need be defeated only when you are willing to be." Positivity is all well and good, but applying Peale's philosophy as a foundation of child-rearing? A philosophy that places blame squarely on the shoulders of the struggling; well, that's just messed up. As a result, Fred created an atmosphere of "learned helplessness," in which his children are dependent on the Master (in this case, Fred) for their most basic needs, contingent on his approval. The metrics of learned helplessness run in exact opposition to those of unconditional love.

Mary paints a picture of her grandfather void of affection. His approach to life seems to mirror what we know about President Trump: winning is everything, and winner takes all. He recognized Donald's flash and personality - qualities Fred lacked - and understood he could use them for financial gain.

"Fred didn't groom Donald to succeed him; when he was in his right mind, he wouldn't trust Trump Management to anybody. Instead, he used Donald, despite his failures and poor judgment, as the public face of his own thwarted ambition. Fred kept propping up Donald's false sense of accomplishment until the only asset Donald had was the ease with which he could be duped by more powerful men."

As a family history, TOO MUCH is a tragedy. It portrays a family which values wealth above each other. A family based on transactions, requiring proof of value from one another, endlessly pitted against each other by the family patriarch. Mary, being a professional in the field of mental health, excuses her uncle's petulance with TOO MUCH, whether intentionally or not. Mired in dysfunction, how else was he supposed to turn out?

As a political expose, TOO MUCH is a provocative warning. Regardless of wealth and fame, it's important to know what you're electing. Our forefathers adopted the Latin phrase, E pluribus unum: Out of many, one. I can only imagine what Donald Trump thinks that means.

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bookophile3
Sep 08, 2020

The book is only 200 pages and half of it is about the author's father and most of the rest about Donald Trump can be found in other biographies. The only useful and detailed psychological profile of Donald Trump is found in the PROLOGUE of the book. Do not buy it, it is much overpriced.

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lilypad_1
Sep 04, 2020

This book is only 200 pages, I read it in 24 hours. The author gives a description of this family and all it's dysfunctions without inserting her opinions for the most part until the last chapter.
Fred Sr. was a sociopath, Donald is a narcissist and sociopath, Donald jr is a sociopath. Is this nature or nurture? No one would have a chance to be normal growing up in that family but Donald alone learned behaviors that would be rewarded by his father(lying, cheating, bragging, bullying, etc). He could have taken the millions and millions of dollars his father gave him and been a good corporate citizen. Instead he stole from the government, learned to sue anyone who crossed him, tried to cheat his siblings out of their inheritance, cut off health insurance to his brother's kids who had a dire need for it, you get the picture.
Now, 40% of our citizens think he is "the chosen one", very scarey.

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mswrite
Sep 03, 2020

Incisive and illuminating look at the early dark forces, especially and most specifically his father Fred, that created the Donald Trump we know today. Author Mary L Trump, his niece and a clinical psychologist, offers a unique insider's view of Trump and much of his strange journey toward 2016 and, perhaps, beyond. She has an appealingly forthright conversational style that immediately pulls you in.

Reading "Too Much and Never Enough" (an apt title), it is possible to feel truly sorry for the frightened, emotionally abandoned and abused child Donald once was and still despise the cruel and foolish man he has become.

Recommended.

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galkasri
Sep 02, 2020

Not as Title described:
I would have NEVER ordered this book if I had watched the Writer on YouTube describing her book:
Recently Watching YouTube interviewing Mary L Trump speaking about her recent book that she titled: (too much and never enough: how my family created the world’s most dangerous man) All her talking describing this book is about personal family matter and has actually nothing about politic!! So why Label Donald Trump (the most dangerous man in the world) and Title her book about Donald Trump is (the most dangerous man in the world) when nothing in the book politically justifies him as (The most dangerous man in the world)?!! Unless Mary L. Trump intended to give this book a -TITLE- that increases the sell of the book; Attracts fear and curiosity of buyers to order this book!! Trickery Title and sell of this book. I will send it back to Amazon, wouldn’t have paid one penny for this book

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

TOO MUCH AND NEVER ENOUGH, written by Mary Trump, Donald Trump’s niece, offers an insider’s look at life growing up inside the Trump family, a family that puts the dys- in dysfunctional. As a trained clinical psychologist, Mary analyzes the dynamics within the family and postulates how they shaped the personality and character of the future president. I found it interesting, depressing, and it explained a lot.

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mikey69
Sep 08, 2020

Fred kept propping up Donald's false sense of accomplishment until the only asset Donald had was the ease with which he could be duped by more powerful men."
-Mary L. Trump, PhD, TOO MUCH AND NEVER ENOUGH: HOW MY FAMILY CREATED THE WORLD'S MOST DANGEROUS MAN

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Donald today is much as he was at three years old: incapable of growing, learning, or evolving, unable to regulate his emotions, moderate his responses, or take in and synthesize information.” - p. 196

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Donald was to my grandfather what the border wall has been for Donald: a vanity project funded at the expense of more worthy pursuits.” - p. 195

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Child abuse is, in some sense, the experience of ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’.” - p.26

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“I hope this book will end the practice of referring to Donald’s ‘strategies’ or ‘agendas,’ as if he operates according to any organizing principles. He doesn’t. Donald’s ego has been and is a fragile and inadequate barrier between him and the real world, which, thanks to his father’s money and power, he never had to negotiate by himself. Donald has always needed to perpetuate the fiction my grandfather started that he is strong, smart, and otherwise extraordinary, because facing the truth—that he is none of those things—is too terrifying for him to contemplate.” - p.17

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

There are 351 quotes posted in goodreads:
https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/84437295-too-much-and-never-enough-how-my-family-created-the-world-s-most-danger
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Also, the book mentioned an Oct 2, 2018 NYTs article "Trump Engaged in Suspect Tax Schemes as He Reaped Riches From His Father." It is well worth a re-read:
https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/10/02/us/politics/donald-trump-tax-schemes-fred-trump.html

President Trump has been fighting a subpoena seeking his tax returns by Congress and the New York State prosecutors.
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My quotes below stay away from the Trump family saga except Trump's alleged hiring someone to take his SATs. The rest of the quotes are on the inappropriate sexual comments to the author, his oldest brother's daughter (similar comments to his daughter Ivanka from various other sources), willingly to be manipulated press, and Trump's handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

Aware of the Wharton School’s reputation, Donald set his sights on the University of Pennsylvania. Unfortunately, even though Maryanne had been doing his homework for him, she couldn’t take his tests, and Donald worried that his grade point average, which put him far from the top of his class, would scuttle his efforts to get accepted. To hedge his bets he enlisted Joe Shapiro, a smart kid with a reputation for being a good test taker, to take his SATs for him. That was much easier to pull off in the days before photo IDs and computerized records. Donald, who never lacked for funds, paid his buddy well. Not leaving anything to chance, he also asked Freddy to speak with James Nolan, a friend from St. Paul’s, who happened to work in Penn’s admissions office. Maybe Nolan would be willing to put in a good word for Freddy’s little brother.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

As formal as Mar-a-Lago was in some ways, it was also much more casual than our usual family gathering places, so I felt comfortable wearing a bathing suit and a pair of shorts to lunch, which was being served on the patio. Donald, who was wearing golf clothes, looked up at me as I approached as if he’d never really seen me before. “Holy shit, Mary. You’re stacked.” “Donald!” Marla said in mock horror, slapping him lightly on the arm.
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At a very deep level, his bragging and false bravado are not directed at the audience in front of him but at his audience of one: his long-dead father.
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In those days, Penn was much less selective than it is now, accepting half or more of those who applied. In any case, Donald got what he wanted. In the fall of 1966, his junior year, he would transfer from Fordham to the University of Pennsylvania.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

On October 2, 2018, the New York Times published an almost 14,000-word article, the longest in its history, revealing the long litany of potentially fraudulent and criminal activities my grandfather, aunts, and uncles had engaged in. Through the extraordinary reporting of the Times team, I learned more about my family’s finances than I’d ever known.
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On the few occasions he was asked about his positions and policies (which for all intents and purposes don’t really exist), he still wasn’t expected or required to make sense or demonstrate any depth of understanding. Since the election, he’s figured out how to avoid such questions completely; White House press briefings and formal news conferences have been replaced with “chopper talk” during which he can pretend he can’t hear any unwelcome questions over the noise of the helicopter blades.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

In 2020, his pandemic “press briefings” quickly devolved into mini–campaign rallies filled with self-congratulation, demagoguery, and ring kissing. In them he has denied the unconscionable failures that have already killed thousands, lied about the progress that’s being made, and scapegoated the very people who are risking their lives to save us despite being denied adequate protection and equipment by his administration. Even as hundreds of thousands of Americans are sick and dying, he spins it as a victory, as proof of his stunning leadership. And in the event that anybody thinks he’s capable of being serious or somber, he’ll throw in a joke about bedding models or lie about the size of his Facebook following for good measure. Still the news networks refuse to pull away. The few journalists who do challenge him, and even those who simply ask Donald for words of comfort for a terrified nation, are derided and dismissed as “nasty.”

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mikey69
Sep 08, 2020

How Norman Vincent Peale destroyed America. Written by the president's niece, Mary L. Trump, PhD.

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