Too Much and Never Enough

Too Much and Never Enough

How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man

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"In this revelatory, authoritative portrait of Donald J. Trump and the toxic family that made him, Mary L. Trump, a trained clinical psychologist and Donald's only niece, shines a bright light on the dark history of their family in order to explain how her uncle became the man who now threatens the world's health, economic security, and social fabric."--Amazon.com
Publisher: New York : Simon & Schuster, 2020.
Edition: First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition.
Copyright Date: ©2020
ISBN: 9781982141462
1982141468
Call Number: B Trump, Donald TRU
Characteristics: 225 pages ; 24 cm
Bib Control Number: 1123201

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green_penguin_484
Oct 29, 2020

*2020*

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writermala
Oct 22, 2020

The author of this book, Mary Trump is certainly qualified to write it. She has a PhD in Psychology and is also the niece of President Trump. Having said that, does she do justification to the sub title, "How my family created the world's most dangerous man?" I don't think so. Mary outlines the dysfunctional nature of her father's family and how it might have helped Donald Trump become the narcissistic sociopath that he is. But for the most part the book deals with how badly her father was treated by her grandfather and later by how she, her brother, and her mother, were disinherited. In doing so she loses her credibility as a Donald Trump biographer and instead appears to be making a case for herself. She could have done a much better job.

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paulORorke
Oct 22, 2020

excellent book; well written; Donald's life would make a good horror movie given his childhood and the children he has ripped away from their parents permanently and all the people who've died because of his handling of the SARS-CoV-2 pandemic.

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zipread
Oct 21, 2020

To understand Trump you’ve got to understand the little boy trying to desperately trying to the significant elders in his disfunctional family. His upbringing was what programmed him to become this empty shell of an egotistical, narcissistic homuncle. Mary Trump writes with a well honed scalpel flaying out the history of the Donald before we even knew him. For those of us who have nurtured a sharp aversion for this man, the book will validate our worst and darkest fears as we read this book with a kind of veritable glee.
Mary Trump’s book is one you won’t be able to put down, especially if you have no more stomach for the Donald. But then that’s why your gonna be reading this book. Right?

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MariaD94015
Oct 20, 2020

FASCINATING! Really explains a lot. Understanding Trump was somehow, comforting.

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Kelticat
Oct 18, 2020

If this book had been written by a fiction author, changing names, it would read as a horror novel or a psychological thriller. But instead it is written by a psychologist who makes it easier to understand various psychological issues plaguing the first family. We get a microscopic view into generational abuse, relationships, and toxicity.

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Stoner1963
Oct 15, 2020

Interesting read....what a disaster of what the term “family“ should be...greed beyond words...I think Mary is smart to be shot of them all as they don’t have a fibre of compassion and empathy in them...Tax avoiding jerks..all of them...meanwhile the poor and middle class pay their fare share of taxes...Best thing to happen to the USA is to dump Trump...otherwise they will continue to wreak havoc on the world. Donald didn’t have much of a chance because of his parents deserting him at a young age..but he should be able to act like an adult now instead of a bullying school kid...I am happy that someone stood up to him, more people should! great job Mary!!

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SidheWrites
Oct 15, 2020

This book is a window into a family that is both more wealthy and more dysfunctional than most of us can comprehend. The thing I found most interesting when reading this is how desperately Mary Trump wanted the approval and love of her seriously effed up family even after years of horrible, abusive treatment. She was often the butt of the joke and yet she still accepted invitations to family functions long after she had the power to decline. To keep seeking their attention with the hopes that maybe this time things will be different speaks to the power her grandfather had over the family, even long after his death.

This book isn't as much about Trump himself as it is about how his father treated everyone in the family and how it shaped each of their lives. It contains more background into her own father's life than it does Donald's, who seems to be able to keep most people at arms length until they prove to be of some use to him. His inability to express basic human decency isn't unknown to anyone. What you see is what you get. There aren't any revelations in this book, just solid confirmation that he is indeed as driven by money as he is lacking in any form of empathy. The fact that he was able to ascend to the presidency knowing even a small percentage of the truth (which was readily available for decades) is astounding but unfortunately not surprising given how desperately some cling to the myth that was created and somehow manages to flourish.

"This is the end result of Donald's having continually been given a pass and been rewarded not just for his failures but for his transgressions - against tradition, against decency, against the law, and against fellow human beings. "

The Emperor isn't naked. He's wearing a blindfold, noise-cancelling earphones, and has a loaded gun in each hand, which he is waving about with no concern for anyone but himself.

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Brice304
Oct 14, 2020

A very insightful book and quick read presented by a psychologist able to illuminate critical childhood events and their impact on adult behaviors. Mary Trump delivers on her promise to show why her uncle, President Donald Trump, is the most dangerous man in the world and how his family dynamic shaped his aberrant behavior. A must read for those wondering why some consider him so dangerous and why he can only get more dangerous as he solidifies his control.

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glenneaton
Oct 14, 2020

It’s a story of unfulfilled dreams and the damage parents can do to their children when they don’t love them. The damage done to Freddy was to contribute to his death I think; and the damage done to Don is now causing much damage to many people.

Highly recommended.

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mikey69
Sep 08, 2020

Fred kept propping up Donald's false sense of accomplishment until the only asset Donald had was the ease with which he could be duped by more powerful men."
-Mary L. Trump, PhD, TOO MUCH AND NEVER ENOUGH: HOW MY FAMILY CREATED THE WORLD'S MOST DANGEROUS MAN

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Donald today is much as he was at three years old: incapable of growing, learning, or evolving, unable to regulate his emotions, moderate his responses, or take in and synthesize information.” - p. 196

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Donald was to my grandfather what the border wall has been for Donald: a vanity project funded at the expense of more worthy pursuits.” - p. 195

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Child abuse is, in some sense, the experience of ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’.” - p.26

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“I hope this book will end the practice of referring to Donald’s ‘strategies’ or ‘agendas,’ as if he operates according to any organizing principles. He doesn’t. Donald’s ego has been and is a fragile and inadequate barrier between him and the real world, which, thanks to his father’s money and power, he never had to negotiate by himself. Donald has always needed to perpetuate the fiction my grandfather started that he is strong, smart, and otherwise extraordinary, because facing the truth—that he is none of those things—is too terrifying for him to contemplate.” - p.17

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

There are 351 quotes posted in goodreads:
https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/84437295-too-much-and-never-enough-how-my-family-created-the-world-s-most-danger
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Also, the book mentioned an Oct 2, 2018 NYTs article "Trump Engaged in Suspect Tax Schemes as He Reaped Riches From His Father." It is well worth a re-read:
https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/10/02/us/politics/donald-trump-tax-schemes-fred-trump.html

President Trump has been fighting a subpoena seeking his tax returns by Congress and the New York State prosecutors.
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My quotes below stay away from the Trump family saga except Trump's alleged hiring someone to take his SATs. The rest of the quotes are on the inappropriate sexual comments to the author, his oldest brother's daughter (similar comments to his daughter Ivanka from various other sources), willingly to be manipulated press, and Trump's handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

Aware of the Wharton School’s reputation, Donald set his sights on the University of Pennsylvania. Unfortunately, even though Maryanne had been doing his homework for him, she couldn’t take his tests, and Donald worried that his grade point average, which put him far from the top of his class, would scuttle his efforts to get accepted. To hedge his bets he enlisted Joe Shapiro, a smart kid with a reputation for being a good test taker, to take his SATs for him. That was much easier to pull off in the days before photo IDs and computerized records. Donald, who never lacked for funds, paid his buddy well. Not leaving anything to chance, he also asked Freddy to speak with James Nolan, a friend from St. Paul’s, who happened to work in Penn’s admissions office. Maybe Nolan would be willing to put in a good word for Freddy’s little brother.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

As formal as Mar-a-Lago was in some ways, it was also much more casual than our usual family gathering places, so I felt comfortable wearing a bathing suit and a pair of shorts to lunch, which was being served on the patio. Donald, who was wearing golf clothes, looked up at me as I approached as if he’d never really seen me before. “Holy shit, Mary. You’re stacked.” “Donald!” Marla said in mock horror, slapping him lightly on the arm.
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At a very deep level, his bragging and false bravado are not directed at the audience in front of him but at his audience of one: his long-dead father.
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In those days, Penn was much less selective than it is now, accepting half or more of those who applied. In any case, Donald got what he wanted. In the fall of 1966, his junior year, he would transfer from Fordham to the University of Pennsylvania.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

On October 2, 2018, the New York Times published an almost 14,000-word article, the longest in its history, revealing the long litany of potentially fraudulent and criminal activities my grandfather, aunts, and uncles had engaged in. Through the extraordinary reporting of the Times team, I learned more about my family’s finances than I’d ever known.
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On the few occasions he was asked about his positions and policies (which for all intents and purposes don’t really exist), he still wasn’t expected or required to make sense or demonstrate any depth of understanding. Since the election, he’s figured out how to avoid such questions completely; White House press briefings and formal news conferences have been replaced with “chopper talk” during which he can pretend he can’t hear any unwelcome questions over the noise of the helicopter blades.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

In 2020, his pandemic “press briefings” quickly devolved into mini–campaign rallies filled with self-congratulation, demagoguery, and ring kissing. In them he has denied the unconscionable failures that have already killed thousands, lied about the progress that’s being made, and scapegoated the very people who are risking their lives to save us despite being denied adequate protection and equipment by his administration. Even as hundreds of thousands of Americans are sick and dying, he spins it as a victory, as proof of his stunning leadership. And in the event that anybody thinks he’s capable of being serious or somber, he’ll throw in a joke about bedding models or lie about the size of his Facebook following for good measure. Still the news networks refuse to pull away. The few journalists who do challenge him, and even those who simply ask Donald for words of comfort for a terrified nation, are derided and dismissed as “nasty.”

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mikey69
Sep 08, 2020

How Norman Vincent Peale destroyed America. Written by the president's niece, Mary L. Trump, PhD.

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